Of all the “Best of 2014” “Best things to do in a new year” and starting a new one, my favorite so far has been about useless feelings to leave out of your personal dictionary for 2015 and beyond! I think we would all be better off and the world a better place if we could all learn to live without these 6 feelings in our personal library of feelings we go to in our daily living. Believe me they are on my list too FRONT AND CENTER.
REGRET- shoulda, woulda coulda…if only i hadn’t been so…you fill in the blank. replaying scenarios over and over will lead you to craziness.Truth is you can’t change the past and must accept it as it is…the past. JUST LET IT GO!!!
ANGER and it’s ugly twin RESENTMENT-
Anger is something that some of us live with more or less than others. Personally I’ve battled it since I was a teen. I had no concept of letting things go until I finally found out that Anger hurt no one but myself. Anger will eat you up inside and chip away little by little at your positive happy heart. Anger doesn’t change anything and it doesn’t make the outcome any different or better. it is coupled with resentment because there is a connection in that both involve the similar feelings of somehow things not being fair. Resentment is that ugly little devil of feelings of anger and displeasure that slowly creep up at someone or something that is perceived by you to be unfair. That unfairness that makes you want to throw a tantrum like a child that isn’t getting his or her way. Just the other day I was having a wonderful evening with someone and had almost forgotten about why i was feeling resentful and then had to actually REMIND myself of why I needed to throw a fit. JUST LIKE A CHILD!!! And i damned well ruined the evening because of it. Well as an adult I can’t do that. No I wont do that. Resentment does not change the unfairness. Life is unfair and you won’t always get your way. Harboring resentments will only hurt you in the long run. It’s best to accept these feelings and release them. Don’t bring your heavy resentments into the new year.
Anxiety can be a complex feeling. It’s as simple as a whisper in your ear that you may have left the coffee maker on to the overwhelming feeling that you are actually having a heart attack complete with a pounding heart, shortness of breath and an inability to breathe. It’s the constant worry that nags at you and makes it hard to sleep all the way through the night. Practice meditation by relaxing your mind. These things can help reduce anxiety levels. Get the right amount of sleep, exercise, eat well but most of all forgive yourself for not getting it right today, and try again tomorrow.
SHAME Google defines shame as: a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. I know it as a deep feeling of emptiness inside my soul that i somehow carry around with me al the time. It’s a combination of humiliation and self-loathing. Shame is the wall that forbids you to come to terms with who you really are as a person. It can be debilitating. Shame can prevent you from becoming the person you’re meant to be. It can make you feel like you’re not worthy when you are. LEAVE IT BEHIND WHERE IT BELONGS!!! DO NOT BRING THIS UGLIEST ONE OF ALL WITH YOU INTO ANYMORE OF YOUR YEARS.